Change Your Story – Part 5. (Choose your friends wisely)

For the last 5 weeks we’ve been talking about what it looks like to change our stories.

What are some of the habits we need to develop in order to move forward in a different direction.

Today is our final day on this topic. Habit #5 we need to implement daily in order to grow and thrive as individuals.

Be very selective with the company you keep!

The Bible says: “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” 

You’ve got to surround yourself with people that encourage you, speak truth, and help you grow. People that are ahead of you and you can learn from. You are a product of your environment, want it or not.

Jim Rohn’s quote “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” pretty much says it all. The people you hang out with regularly can have a great influence on you, your attitude, mindset and behavior.

If your environment is positive, ambitious and views life in abundance, that’s how you will see your life as well. But the opposite is true too. If you hang out too much with people that are negative, lazy and unhappy, soon you’ll start thinking and behaving like them.

So, for this reason, be very careful who you let speak into your life. Now, I’m not talking about who you spend time with one or twice. Of course, we want to be friendly, welcoming and kind to everyone. I’m talking about the people that we spend a lot of time with.

This also goes for choosing the kind of movies you watch, music you listen to, books you read or people you follow on social media. Those also are considered voices that speak into our lives in a big way.

'You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” - Jim RohnClick To Tweet

So, here’s an exercise I’d like to invite you to do with me. I want you to write a list of all the people you hang out with on a regular basis and then make two columns: positive and negative.

I want you to put every name in a category. If you have people that fall into the negative category maybe you can start spending a little less time with them.

Start looking intentionally for people that are ahead in an area you want to grow in. For example: you want to get back to your ideal weight by losing some pounds and eating healthier and start exercising. Start reaching out to people that are already doing that.  Join a gym or hire a trainer. Look for a fitness and health class at work or church. Join a health club online.

Just like everything else in life, this only happens when you are being intentional about it. So, be very careful who you give the power of impacting your life in a big way.

Now, I’d love to hear from you! What are your thoughts on this topic? What is your experience when it comes to the company you keep. Do you think it’s important to be selective with your friends? How has this worked in your life? Please leave your comment below 🙂

I encourage you to always live your life on purpose with courage and authentically. I am cheering for you!

With all my love,


P.S. Speaking of the company you keep, if you are looking for a group of like-minded women who want to live life on purpose and courageously, I’d love to have you join the Daring Girls private FB group. Come, join this positive, encouraging and thriving community. Can’t wait to see you on the inside. Join here!

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  1. Patricia Willoughby

    October 16, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    Good advice! It is so easy to go along in life without giving much thought about our associations.

  2. Christina Price

    October 17, 2017 at 12:34 am

    I agree that it is so important to be intentional about the people you spend time with. The words they speak and attitudes they hold really do influence you, like it or not. We always need people who are ahead of us in life, as well as people we can mentor. Great post!

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